6 Things Caregivers Wish They Had Known

Caregiving is a complicated experience that often unfolds without a clear roadmap. You might not know what to do until you're in the thick of it, facing decisions and challenges that you never could have imagined. The experience can sometimes be overwhelming, and in the toughest moments, it's easy to feel like you're navigating uncharted territory on your own.

So, we reached out to our network of caregivers to ask what they wish they’d known before starting their caregiving experience. They revealed practical and emotional strategies that helped guide them through the day-to-day ups and downs of caregiving. Whether it's setting boundaries, embracing emotions, or finding joy in unexpected places, these tips can help make your path a bit more manageable.

6 Truly Helpful Tips for Caregivers

1. Set (and stick to!) your boundaries. It’s important to recognize your own limits and know when certain situations become unmanageable. Setting clear boundaries well in advance can help protect your well-being and ensure you’re able to provide the best care possible, without sacrificing your own needs or responsibilities. Keep record of them, and when those boundaries are crossed, it may be time to seek additional support or explore other care options.
   
   
2. Always leave early. No matter how close your care recipient’s appointment is or how long you think it will take to get there, add 30 minutes just to be safe. Unexpected delays can happen when you least expect them, whether it’s traffic, misplaced keys, or a last-minute need from your care recipient. Giving yourself a buffer will help you stay calm and keep things running smoothly.
   
   
3. Allow yourself to feel all your emotions. Rather than trying to push down your difficult feelings, embrace the full range of your emotions, both positive and negative. Letting yourself sit with the tough moments can actually help you process them more effectively. At the same time, make it a habit to notice and appreciate the small things that bring you joy, which can be a powerful counterbalance during tough times.
   
   
4. Pick your battles. Not everything is as important as it may seem in the moment, and it’s okay to let go of the need to control every situation. If your efforts aren’t making a difference, try to release that responsibility. Remember, the person you’re caring for is still an individual entitled to their own choices, even if those choices defy the medical, financial, or other advice you think they should consider.
   
   
5. It’s okay to laugh! Sometimes life as a caregiver is so ridiculous, absurd, and messy that you just can’t help but laugh about it. Embrace those moments — they can be a powerful reminder that it’s not all about getting everything right. Laughter can be a form of release, helping you find a bit of joy and perspective even in chaos. 
   
   
6. Find moments of connection and joy. If you’re able, dance with your care recipient or dance for them. Even during the hardest times, small acts like sharing a favorite song or holding hands can bring comfort and create lasting memories. It’s these moments that remind us about the humanity of caregiving.

Looking Ahead

Caregiving is all about finding what works for you and your care recipient, one day at a time. It’s okay to set boundaries, pick your battles, and embrace every emotion that comes your way. Whether it's leaving early to give yourself some breathing room, finding laughter in the chaos, or sharing a quiet moment, these small steps can make a big difference. After all, caregiving isn't about getting everything right; it's about navigating the experience with compassion — for your care recipient and for yourself.