The caregiving path is paved with profound moments - acts of selflessness, gestures of love, countless sacrifices. Yet, it's also lined with intense emotions that may leave us physically and mentally depleted at times.
Stress, worry, grief, and exhaustion are all-too familiar companions on this journey.
Putting on a brave face each day while juggling family, professional, caregiving, and other responsibilities can feel like a relentless uphill climb. The weight of it all threatens to overwhelm us.
But we keep climbing.
Why? Because providing care is an expression of our deepest devotion. Whether born from duty or love, each gesture to ease our loved one's suffering becomes a quiet yet courageous affirmation of who we are.
Caregiving reveals our empathy, resilience, and willingness to sacrifice for those who need us most. And that's why we care, despite the strain.
The caregiving experience encompasses a vast spectrum of emotions, all of which are valid. Frustration, grief, burnout, guilt, isolation - countless caregivers have traveled similar paths and felt these same intense feelings.
A deep sense of duty fuels our actions, as does the satisfaction of sharing our compassion with those who need it most. But when we lose sight of why we endure such challenging emotions, the perspectives of others who have been there can be powerful.
Stories, thoughts, and hard-won wisdom may perhaps inspire and remind us that we're not alone. Though our individual journeys may differ, certain emotional experiences are shared.
Recognizing these universal feelings through others’ words encourages us to embrace our own complicated emotions and persevere.
Watching a loved one struggle is heart-wrenching, yet caregivers often find beauty and meaning in their shared experience.
"There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love."
— Washington Irving
"Hope is a companion and a countermeasure for every caregiver. It is the added dash of 'pixie dust' caregivers rely on as we do so much despite knowing the destination remains unchanged."
— Candice Smith, Caregiven Founder
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."
— Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
"And when great souls die, after a period peace blooms, slowly and always irregularly. Spaces fill with a kind of soothing electric vibration. Our senses, restored, never to be the same, whisper to us. They existed. We can be. Be and be better. For they existed."
— Maya Angelou
While experiencing burnout is practically inevitable, caregivers persevere through exhaustion by nurturing hope, love, gratitude, and self-care.
"Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim."
— Vicki Harrison
"It is not how much you do, but how much love you put in the doing."
— Mother Teresa
"Self-care is never a selfish act - it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the life I was put on earth to offer others."
— Parker J. Palmer
“During the 24/7 grind of being a carer, it's all too easy to forget the fact that the person you're doing so much for is, and is obliged to be, more resourceful than you in many respects.”
― Naoki Higashida
The loneliness of caregiving can feel overwhelming, but reminders of the larger supportive community provide comfort.
"No person is ever truly alone. Those who live no more, whom we loved, echo still within our thoughts, our words, our hearts."
— Richard Fife
"We're all in this together. It's okay to be honest, to ask for help, to say you're stuck or haunted or can't let go. We can relate to those things. Screw the stigma that says otherwise. Break the silence and break the cycle, for you are more than just your pain."
— Jamie Tworkowski
“Every single human being who is alive has felt this kind of pain, hopelessness, and loneliness at one time or another. We are all connected through this shared pain and struggle.”
— Leo Babauta
"There are only four kinds of people in the world: those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers, and those who will need caregivers."
— Rosalyn Carter
It's natural to feel guilty and question if you're doing enough, but caregivers can find peace knowing their efforts - however imperfect - are an act of love.
"Things changed for me when I accepted that everything I did was more than enough even if it didn't change anything for him."
— Candice Smith, Caregiven Founder
"My caregiver mantra is to remember: the only control you have is over how you choose to respond."
— Nancy L. Kriseman
“Recently, I made the extremely difficult decision to move (my father) into an assisted-living facility. Fortunately, he has the financial resources to do that. For most people, that’s not even an option. I have been happy with the level of care that he’s getting, but when I signed the lease, I felt like I was breaking my promise. I tried my best to follow my mom’s wishes. But there’s only so much I could do, and I had to do it.”
— Karina Ortega (caregiver)
"At the end of each day ask yourself, ‘Have I done all I could today, given the time, talent and resources I have?’ If you can answer yes, you’ve done enough. The question isn’t ‘Did I do a perfect job?’ or ‘Was I the best at what I did?’ Just did I do the best I could in the reality of the world in which I live."
Through caregiving's toughest moments, we discover reservoirs of inner strength and fortitude that transform us in beautiful ways.
"And once the storm is over you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain, when you come out of the storm you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about."
— Haruki Murakami
"I also see that it’s not enough if you’re trying to overcome someone else slowly succumbing to an illness or the effects of age. But it is enough if you see that what you are doing amounts to so much more than the simple acts that comprise the art of caregiving. It is enough because what you are taking away with you from this journey caring for another will infuse every aspect of the rest of your own life-journey in so many ways.”
— Candice Smith, Caregiven Founder
"Being a caregiver is a rollercoaster of emotions. There are days of exhaustion and frustration, but also pure joy and fulfillment. It's a constant reminder of the strength of the human spirit."
— Lisa Adams
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow'.”
— Mary Anne Radmacher
Hearing others' open and honest reflections on the caregiving experience can have a healing power, especially when we feel overwhelmed, isolated, or filled with doubt.
We may be separated by distance or circumstance, but every caregiver is part of an unwavering circle of courage and resilience.
Caregiven was built by people who have “walked the caregiving path” and understand what you are experiencing as well as the importance of sharing inspiring stories. We invite you to learn more about how this resource can help you embrace the multifaceted nature of caregiving, from practical tasks to emotional support.