You’ve just received a reunion “save the date” and feel an immediate rush of excitement about catching up with family you haven’t seen in ages.
Soon however, that familiar pang of worry arises. How should you mention this event to your care recipient? Will they share your enthusiasm or shut down at the mere idea of travel?
Many caregivers struggle with how to discuss travel plans. Don't worry, with a little preparation and a lot of heart, these conversations can open doors to new adventures and cherished memories.
Before we dive into the "how," let's discuss the "why." Travel discussions might be loaded with emotion:
Keep in mind, addressing these worries together can strengthen your bond and lead to experiences you'll both treasure.
Choose a relaxed moment — maybe over a cup of tea after a quiet meal — and keep it casual. "You know, today I was thinking about that beach we used to visit. Remember how much you loved collecting shells?"
A conversational approach accomplishes two goals: it rekindles happy memories and gently introduces the idea of travel.
When your care recipient responds, be mindful to listen attentively. Are they wistful? Anxious? Their tone will guide your next steps.
If they seem interested, wonderful! If not, don't push an uncomfortable topic. Consider reframing the conversation by saying: "I just love remembering those trips. Maybe we could look at old photos together sometime?"
If concerns are expressed, validate them with comments such as: "I understand you're worried about being away from your doctor. That's a really important point."
Use the opportunity to brainstorm solutions together, perhaps suggest: "What if we talked to Dr. Smith about our trip? She might have great advice for traveling safely."
Involve your care recipient in travel planning. Their participation could simply be an answer to: "If we were to take a trip, what would be most important to you? Quiet evenings? Seeing family? Good food?"
While the travel destination is important, equally so is feeling heard and valued.
Sometimes, despite our compassionate efforts, a care recipient’s answer to travel will still be "no," and that's okay. Respect their decision and remember, there are many ways to "travel.” Here are some ideas:
Satisfy the travel itch while keeping everyone comfortable.
It's natural to be disappointed if travel plans don't come to fruition. Give yourself permission to feel that emotion. Consider reaching out to a friend or joining a caregiver support group when you are discouraged or overwhelmed. Taking care of yourself is vital to being an exceptional caregiver.
Ready to initiate the travel conversation?
Remember, this is the first step on a journey. Take it slow, be patient with yourself and your care recipient, and keep the lines of communication open.
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